It is important to open dialogues with our children. My little sister is going to tertiary soon I thought it important to prepare her for the road ahead. It is better to be prepared, you can be late but always be prepared. If you have a little brother or sister who is also preparing to start a life of their own I think its time you equip them with the necessary information and skills to maneuver in this cold and dark place. It is rough out there. As much as the mandate is to get there and study there are other developments that might be unavoidable like getting into a relationship. Then talk to them about what to do when it does happen. It is called INSURANCE. If a child gets into a relationship they must know about safety precautions from you and not from friends. We understand that they will make mistakes but do not let them repeat yours. If they know better they will do better.
Yes talk about condoms, morning after pills, contraceptives and most importantly SELF RESPECT. Remind them to take care of themselves at all times and that not everyone is their friend. When they go out, teach them never to leave their drinks unattended or allow any guy even the one they assume is their friend to fix or hand them a drink!!! They must drink from cans in public places and always put their thumb to cover the can when moving around people. Yes even the ones they think they know.
Looking back now I once had a friend everyone made fun of because she lost control of all her actions at a party held by "friends". She was drugged by HYENNAS masquerading as friends. It is disgusting what people are capable of. They are always plotting your demise and want to take things that do not belong to them by force.
These are lessons we must also teach our children. I teach my son and cousins that NO ONE IS ALLOWED TO TOUCH THEIR PRIVATE PARTS EXCEPT FOR ME, HIS FATHER MY MOTHER, AND THEIR GIRLFRIENDS/WIVES (IN FUTURE). If any man dares to do that I give them the permission to kill him or gorge his eyes out on the spot. Call me and I will go finish it off. Let us give our children a voice, tell them to report that immediately to you and teach them TO NAME AND SHAME the culprit.
The world is a sick place. The only way we can heal it is if we know exactly what and who we are dealing with so that they can be removed from society. Growing up I used to say I wanted to be a judge because I felt so strongly about sexual predators, still do! Much to the amusement of the classroom and the teacher I used to say I would measure the culprits penis in full view of everyone and the millimeters would determine how long he would ROT in jail. After determining how many years, he would be thrown in with those who have no possibility of parole. So the same thing they take away from others can be taken away from him.
Today I ask you to begin talking to your children. Your children is not just the ones you give birth to, it is every single child. Find out. Maybe one has had an encounter with a predator and it shows in their sudden change in behavior but you have no cooking clue. I am launching the NAME AND SHAME campaign. Do the right thing today and everyday by getting behind it. These things are not humans and must be EXPOSED. What ever happened to stoning? I am of the opinion that they must be stoned to death.
