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Extra Strong.

Look to the LORD and his strength; seek his face always.

—1 Chronicles 16:11

 

Thoughts on Today's Verse...

After restoring the presence of God to his people through the Ark of the Covenant, David and Asaph gave them these verses as a song to perpetually remind them of the importance of seeking God because ... our strength is found in him ... our grace is from his loving presence ... and our hope is in seeing him face to face and knowing him even as we are known by him. We must look to the Lord and not seek our own way or follow our own path.

Eternal sunshine of the spotless mind.

You woke up this morning now smile and get over yesterday. My 7 year old told me to get over the past this morning while I was telling him "when I was in school it didn't happen like that". Lol it's true though get over the past it happened, there's nothing you can do to change it. Do not even think too much of the future nobody knows what will really happen. Live in the now and work with what you have. I'm not saying don't learn from the past I'm just saying don't live in it. Some of us are still literally living there. Holding on to old clothes, memories, songs, old hurts and old joys that we do not appreciate or enjoy what is happening now. What a waste of a life. 

Guess it's true that you must wake up with a "what can I do today" kind of attitude. Well today I helped my son get ready for school, took my baby to the clinic, spent time with my other baby, penned down this and my day has only just started. Baby steps, I look around me and I am grateful that's why there is always eternal sunshine in this spotless mind and judging by the stares and love I'm surrounded by...it shows.

Roar!

Exactly what I think. You don't have to prove anything to anyone but God and yourself. Ain't nobody got time to be walking around explaining themselves or what they are capable of. As long as you know it and own it, it's fine. 

Chrisette Michele - A Couple Of Forevers

The Break-Up continued...

The Break-Up part 2

Dealing with Emotional Pain

 

1. Know that the pain you are feeling is normal. After a breakup, it is normal to feel sad, angry, frightened, and other emotions as well. You might be worried that you will end up alone or that you won’t be happy again. Just remind yourself that it is normal to feel this way after a breakup and that you need to feel these emotions in order to move on.

 

2. Take a break from your normal routine. It may be necessary for you to take a short break from your normal routine after a relationship ends. Having this time may help you to process your feelings and function better in the long run. Just make sure that you do not do anything that will threaten your other relationships or your livelihood.

• For example, you may be able to skip your normal exercise class for a week without consequence, but you can’t skip work for a week. Use good judgment and explain your situation to your friends if you need to cancel any plans while you recover.

3. Allow yourself to grieve the loss of the relationship. The end of a relationship can leave a big hole in your heart, which may require a significant grieving period. Make sure that you give yourself permission to grieve this loss and experience the pain that it causes. Otherwise, it may take longer for you to feel better and move on. Let yourself cry, scream, yell, or whatever you need to do to get your negative emotions out.

• Try setting a daily time limit for grieving the loss of your relationship. Having a set amount of time to deal with these emotions will provide you with an outlet to vent while preventing you from dwelling on your emotions.

4. Surround yourself with supportive people. You want people around you who love you and who will help you feel good about yourself. Surrounding yourself with compassionate, supportive friends and family will help you see yourself as a worthwhile person, and you'll find it easier to get steady on your feet again with your loved ones around you.

• Don’t be afraid to ask your friends and family for support if you need someone to talk to or a shoulder to cry on.

5. Find healthy ways to soothe your emotional pain. It may be your first instinct to want to ignore or dull your pain by turning to alcohol, drugs, or food, but these will not provide long-term solutions. Steer clear of these unhealthy methods of dealing with your emotional pain. Instead, try to find ways of dealing with your emotions that will lead to growth and recovery.

• Try taking up a new hobby to keep yourself occupied while you recover from a breakup. Take a class, join a club, or teach yourself how to do something. Engaging in a hobby will help you to feel better about yourself, distract you from your pain for a little while, and build up your self-esteem by helping you to develop a new skill.

To be continued.....

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Get over it.

How to Get Over a Break Up

Step 1: Work Through Your Feelings

1. Reflect on your relationship. Consider all of the reasons that you and your ex broke up. Try to keep in mind that even if that you enjoyed being together for a while, something was not working. Thinking about the reasons why the relationship ended can help you understand why you need to move on. You may also be able to avoid making the same mistakes in the future if you can identify areas where you contributed to the demise of the relationship. Ask yourself some of the following questions:

• Did I contribute to the end of the relationship? If so, what did I do?
• Do I tend to choose the same sort of people to date? If so, what are they like? Are they good for me? Why or why not?
• Have I had similar problems in other relationships? If so, what is causing me to have these problems? What can I do differently in future relationships?
  
  
  
  2. Write about your feelings. Write in a journal or try writing poems. The most important thing is to be honest and don't edit yourself as you go. One of the best results of writing it all down is that sometimes you will be amazed by a sudden insight that comes to you as you are pouring it all out onto paper. Patterns may become clearer, and as your grieving begins to lessen, you will find it so much easier to understand valuable life lessons from the whole experience.

• Try writing down your feelings every day after your breakup until you feel better. For example, you could start each of your journal entries with “It has been __ days since we broke up and I feel _____” Then go into more detail about how you are feeling. Using this prompt will help you to see the progress of your emotions over time and process some of those emotions as well.

• Try writing a letter to your ex, but do not send it. Sometimes it just helps to get all of your feelings out. However, sending it is not a good idea. This letter is just for you, so write out everything you wish you could have said and be done with it. It doesn't do any good to rehash the breakup over and over again, so just pretend you are telling them how you feel for the last time.
• Try writing a story. Think back to when your relationship with this person began, and document it from beginning to end. This may be very painful, but it will give you a broader perspective. When you get to the final chapter, finish off on a positive note and write "The End".

3. Deal with your anger. Feelings of anger occur when we feel we have been wronged or there has been unfair treatment. In a situation where you will not contact your ex-partner, the best way to deal with anger alone is to relax^.

• Take deep breaths and focus on allowing your muscles to voluntarily relax. Soft music can often help.

4. Stand by your decision. If the breakup was your decision, keep in mind that focusing on the good times you had with your partner may cause you to forget the reasons why you broke it off. By the same token, try not to second-guess the situation if the decision to end things was not yours. It's very common to romanticize the good parts of the relationship and convince yourself that the bad parts weren't so bad after all. Don't play this game with yourself. Accept the situation and work on moving forward.

 

5. Remind yourself of your ex’s negative traits. Focusing on all of the things that you don’t like about your ex can help you to get over the breakup faster. Try making a list of all of the things your ex did that you did not like. For example, maybe your ex often burped loudly after dinner, or made plans without you, or forgot your birthday. List every little thing that bothered you about your ex.

 

 

 

 

6. Consider the reasons why you are better off without your ex. In addition to reminding yourself of everything that bothered you about your ex, you can also benefit from thinking about the positives to your breakup. Make another list of all of the reasons why you are better off without your ex.

• For example, maybe your ex discouraged your efforts to eat healthy, so now you feel more empowered to follow a healthy diet and take better care of yourself. Or maybe your ex never wanted to do any of the things that you wanted to do, so now you have the freedom to do all of those things. List all of the reasons why you are better off without your ex.

 

To be continued.......

Tamar Braxton - All the Way Home

Where was Tamar Braxton all along though??!!!!

I love, love, love this woman. She is proof that hard work and determination pays off.

Thank you for lessons learned.

Flawless!!!

I have been challenged by my little sister to pen down my thoughts. We had a heart to heart and I think we finally get it. After years of sibling catfights and not getting along, I think we just might have found each others heartbeats. For as long as I can remember my mom was always begging us to get along.

I've always loved her unconditionally and would gnaw out someone's eyeballs with my own hands if they hurt her, but we just did not get along at all. I am grateful for wisdom and the peace that has tied us together at long last. I love my family and their support is all one ever really needs, the outside is secondary.

Everyone has a gift, your family being your biggest. We need to see our siblings for who they are and accept it and them. There was one line I could never shout out in Beyoncé's flawless, now I can with conviction...

Momma taught me good home training
My Daddy taught me how to love my haters
My sister told me I should speak my mind
My man made me feel so God damn fine, I'm flawless!

Destiny's child.

I can control my destiny, but not my fate. Destiny means there are opportunities to turn right or left, but fate is a one-way street. I believe we all have the choice as to whether we fulfil our destiny, but our fate is sealed.- Paulo Coelho

 

Thank you

My tea's gone cold, I'm wondering why I got out of bed at all
the morning rain clouds up my window and I can't see at all
And even if I could it'd all be grey, but your picture on my wall
it reminds me that it's not so bad
it's not so bad...

I drank too much last night, got bills to pay
my head just feels in pain
I missed the bus and there'll be hell today
I'm late for work again
and even if I'm there, they'll all imply that I might not last the
day
and then you call me and it's not so bad
it's not so bad and

I want to thank you for giving me the best day of my life
Oh just to be with you is having the best day of my life- Dido

T.D. Jakes, Living With Uncertainty.

I love this. It is the most beautiful gift.

It echoes my favourite African Proverb: " Only a fool knows everything"

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