Friday 1 November 2013

Refill?



 
Fumbling, giggling, silly as ever I get like this after one too many..
But right now I ain't even been drinkin'
He approached me and asked for a minute
Which turned into five, then turned into ten
And right now I don't know how to say when

So can I get a refill?
Can I get a refill?
Can I get a refill?
Yeah, of your time
Cause you're intoxicating my mind
Feel like a conversational lush
Cause I don't know how much is too much, yeah
I feel like the girl at the bar who's been there too long
Can't stand up!

-Elle Varner

HONESTLY..




18000 PAGE VIEWS!!!

Hello!

I would like to take this time to thank every single one of you, who go through my sh*t..Please give yourselves a big hug followed by a round of applause. I am happy to announce *drum roll please* that I have hit and surpassed 18 000 page views. This is amazing considering the fact that I have been absent for a while.

Thank you to YOU and YOU for accepting me and what I have to say.Today is the first day of a new month and I would firstly like to thank God for seeing us through the year,as we are approaching the new year and secondly I would like to ask God to see us through this exam season. I speak life and blessings to you my family.

I promise to keep doing me and giving you what you have come to expect and that is thought provoking,witty and intellectual content. I love you and may God continue to bless you with every page view *mwaaaaah*

Kind Regards
Ms_Curvy

COMPLETE.


Wednesday 2 October 2013

Always in my head

You're like a cool breeze, on a summer's day
You are a river running through the desert plain
You are my shelter, from the pouring rain
You were my comfort, even before the pain


I can hear the sound of five drummers in the wind
The leaves blowing in the breeze, ring out like guitars
A tin can rolls across the gravel like a tambourine
I am but a vessel, so I sing, because you are

In my head, you're always in my head
In my dreams, you're always in my head
In my pain, you're always in my head
In my peace, you're always in my head


A rainbow of rhythm stretches across the sky
An airplane in the distance, plays a beautiful cello line
It's no coincidence; it's in tune with the music in my head
If you were a shoulder you're where I would rest, but I am your vessel so I hear, you

In my head,you're always in my head
In my fears,you're always in my head
In my joy,you're always in my head
In my tears, you're always in my head - India Arie

Wednesday 18 September 2013

Happy Sweet 16 Mamiki!!!


16 years ago my mom bought home the most precious and positively thee prettiest thing we've ever laid eyes on,my one and only sister Mamikie Pebetsi♥. Happy birthday and happy sweet 16 sesi,may God continue to not only add more candles on your cake but also wisdom,blessings,love,success and happiness. I'm proud of the person you are, may you continue to grow in every area of your life every day. I pray that God continue to guide your path and that Jesus Christ remains the light under your feet, I also pray that the Holy Spirit is always with you to protect you and keep you from harms way.

 
Our relationship has not always been rosy because let's face it, you were born during my adolescent period and I wasn't always the best sister. We might have had our fair share of fights, but we always love and are there for one another. I remember how happy you were when you found out I was expecting a new member of our family, our little Lukey. You loved him and were there for him, from my tummy and you haven't stopped ever since. I love you and how you love him, its the same love I feel for you and him.

I might not be the most affectionate of people, but I love you and I am truly blessed to have a sister like you, I really wouldn't ask for anyone else. Granted we get into each others hair, but fact is that is how we love one another. You are 16 now, with all the mood swings,tears,frustrations and hormones you will grow into your own and that is a charismatic,smart,artistic,beautiful and successful young woman. I look at a lot of sisterly relationships like Johanna Mukoki and Basetsane Khumalo, both smart,beautiful,grounded,determines, successful and loving, and I see a glimpse of you and I there.


 This is your day my little yellow bone, as much as I would have loved to be there to spend it with you, just like you did with me, I can't but my spirit and love is with you. Every time you feel your precious little heart flutter and warmth around you, know it is me hugging you and kissing your forehead. This is from me to you beautiful princess, enjoy your day and know that you are loved and missed dearly. I read that a woman who does not ask for anything, deserves everything. I thought of you immediately, you never ask anyone for anything (unlike some people lol), if I could I would give you
 the world, you deserve it!

Happy birthday once again Kiki_kins  aka DIVA!!

Hugs,kisses and love
Ms_Curvy




I promise myself.

 
 
 
After coming across this and reading it out to myself and those very close to my heart, I thought to make the circle even bigger and share it with everyone I love and that is you. Take heart and hold on, the best is yet to come. This is a promise I will uphold everyday, with that said I  noticed some short comings in me which I commit to work on everyday as I uphold my promise. May these words stay with you and resound in your thoughts and actions. Stay blessed.
 
Kind Regards
Ms_Curvy 
 


Monday 16 September 2013

Hold on We're going home.

I got my eyes on you
You're everything that I see
I want your high loving me motion, endlessly
I can't get over you
You left your mark on me
I want your high loving me motion endlessly


Cause you're a good girl and you know it
You act so different around me
Cause you're a good girl and you know it
I know exactly who you could be
Just hold on we're going home
Just hold on we're going home
It's hard to do these things alone
Just hold on we're going home
 -Drake

Floyd "Money May" Mayweather Jr.




Not only is this fine piece of decedant chocolate man,FIIIINE, but he also kicks ass! Hard. I am sorry but Floyd Mayweather is too hot, the fact that he is undisputed in the ring makes him even hotter,if thats even possible.

Mayweather turned one of the richest fights ever into just another $41.5 million payday Saturday night, dominating Alvarez from the opening bell and winning a majority decision in a masterful performance that left no doubt who the best fighter of his era is.


Mayweather remained unbeaten in 45 fights and added another piece of the junior middleweight title to his collection in a fight that was fought at a 152-pound limit. Alvarez weighed in at that weight, but was an unofficial 165 pounds when he got into the ring while Mayweather, who weighed in at 150 1/2 pounds, was an even 150.

The fight was one of the richest ever - if not the richest ever - with a live gate of $20 million and at least another $100 million from pay-per-view. Tickets were so hot that celebrities were actually offering to buy them and some tickets were being offered online for as much as $29,000.
Mayweather was the big beneficiary of that, making a guaranteed $41.5 million to $5 million for Alvarez. Add in his purse from his win over Robert Guererro in May and Mayweather made $73 million in two fights - easily making him the highest-paid athlete in the country.

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/09/15/floyd-mayweather-canelo-alvarez_n_3928662.html?ir=Sports



Curvy_Wisdom


People want a truth that makes them feel good only, what about the one that doesn’t? Fact is it’s still the truth. -Ms_Curvy

Friday 13 September 2013

Like a star.

 
 
Just like a star across my sky,
Just like an angel off the page,
You have appeared to my life,
Feel like I'll never be the same,
Just like a song in my heart,
Just like oil on my hands,
Honour to love you

Still I wonder why it is,
I don't argue like this,                                   
With anyone but you,
We do it all the time,
Blowing out my mind,

You've got this look I can't describe,
You make me feel like I'm alive,
When everything else is au fait,
Without a doubt you're on my side,
Heaven has been away too long,
Can't find the words to write this song,
Oh...
Your love,



 

Still I wonder why it is,
I don't argue like this,
With anyone but you,
We do it all the time,
Blowing out my mind,

Now I have come to understand,
The way it is,
It's not a secret anymore,
'cause we've been through that before,
From tonight I know that you're the only one,
I've been confused and in the dark,
Now I understand....

 
 
 

Difference.

It's that time to be reminded exactly how much difference one mosquito can make in a room at night. It is officially Spring, they will be out in droves to remind most of us who live within their region that Summer is fast approaching. This is a tiny insect but anyone who has been acquainted with it knows what crossing its little path means, constant annoying buzzing in your ear reminding you of the imminent attack, the itching and scratching and lest we not forget the bumps and for some even more unfortunate victims, broken skin and sores.  Moral of the story?  One night with this little bugger makes a hell of a difference, it makes its presence felt and it leaves a mark, in staying true to Beyonce's song: I was here! What is your excuse?

The price of ignorance.


Sleeping without clothes.. Take it all OFF!


 
1. While you sleep, the body perspires for a while and then cools down as it recuperates from the whole day stress and one principle of sleeping un-clad is to allow blood to circulate smoothly. Clothes restrict blood circulation, hence shedding that artificial skin is good for stimulating the same.
2. The tight elastic bands of your pyjamas or short should be loosened for a sound comfortable sleep.

3. Medical research have shown that sleeping naked is good for those suffering from insomnia as it has a comforting effect on them.

4. Going NAKED will streamline and accelerate the repair process of the skin. A healthy, uninterrupted air flow will help in the process.

5. Sleeping NAKED allows the sebaceous glands to do their work best, which is sebum discharge and regeneration. This in turn helps in improving the metabolic rate of the body.

6. And for women, sleeping NAKED can be healthier for their private parts. While it’s totally normal to have yeast and bacteria down there, the warm environment can sometimes cause an overgrowth. One way to prevent infections is to “air it out”. Just don’t forget to lock your room!

7. Being too warm at night disrupts the release of melatonin and growth hormone (anti-aging) into the body. It regenerates. This is why a person looks refreshed and blooming after a long rest. Because the skin regenerates while you’re sleeping and it may not complete its cycle with clothes on.

8. Sleeping NAKED helps you sleep more soundly, which will allow your levels of the stress hormone cortisol to decrease as you rest, keeping your energy and hunger levels in check.

9. And of course, this is also beneficial to married couples as sleeping NAKED encourages sexier relationships. Isn’t it nice to lay skin-to-skin at night with your wife/husband?

Tuesday 10 September 2013

Trouble sleeping.

It's late and I'm feeling so tired
Having trouble sleeping.
This constant compromise
Between thinking and breathing.

Could it be I'm suffering
Because I'll never give in?
Won't say that I'm falling in love
Tell me I don't seem myself
Couldn't I blame something else?

Just don't say I'm falling in love

Some kind of therapy
Is all I need
Please believe me
Some instant remedy
That can cure me completely..


-Corrine Bailey Rae


 
 

Saturday 7 September 2013

David Tlale New York Fashion Week 2013




Over the nine years since he launched his brand, South Africa native David Tlale has showcased his inimitable designs at all the premium fashion week platforms and etched his mark as a favorite on the South African and African fashion landscapes.

Renowned for his undeniable knack for showmanship and elaborate designs, Tlale’s work is both daring and dramatic—a brand that defies convention and a brand that impenitently employs unpredictable use and understanding of fabric, color and texture.

David Tlale has taken his work around the world, and partnered with a number of influential brands in South Africa. In 2009, we was awarded Fashion Designer of the year at the Arise Africa Fashion Awards, and later made his debut at Mercedes-Benz New York Fashion Week with a collection entitled “Cultural Intimacy.”

Read more: http://www.mbfashionweek.com/designers/david_tlale/














http://www.france24.com/en/20130906-desigual-offers-colorful-start-ny-fashion-week

Calling.



If I didn’t take the truth as good as I give it, then maybe I would select it, but since I do..I won’t .-Ms_Curvy

Thursday 5 September 2013

Love in a hopeless place.

It's like you're screaming, and no one can hear
You almost feel ashamed
That someone could be that important
That without them, you feel like nothing
No one will ever understand how much it hurts
You feel hopeless; like nothing can save you
And when it's over, and it's gone
You almost wish that you could have all that bad stuff back
So that you could have the good

Truth.


Setting the record straight.

It's sad how I just googled Cleopatra and all the pictures that showed up were of a white woman with braids? White people in Egypt ne? For you who don't know Queen Cleopatra, shame on you. I looked her up to show some ladies what a Queen who looks like them has on her head and that is? Braids. So this automatically invalidates the ladies who want to justify a full on wig by bringing up braids. It's an Afrikan thing, if you knew,maybe you would understand. I refuse to submit to what someone else thinks beauty is, what about my true beauty? Which is my fro. The last piece has  ruffled a few feathers and has created a lot of argument,discussion and criticism. Let me say I have noted all of that, especially how most people are so quick to go on about how I am saying don't do what what. I had to correct a commenter on that, let me set the record straight, I am not telling anyone what to do, I am merely telling you to THINK!

You must not rush to judgement before you understand the gist of the matter or underlying tone. It's funny how I was "reminded" of how I put on a weave like that's suppose to automatically invalidate what I wrote. Let me set the record straight again, It does not in any way. The fact that I put on a weave before is the very same thing that influenced my thoughts and what I wrote. The truth does not have any shades, it is what it is. I understand that some ladies are not ready to take in that truth right now, its fine take your time but do not dispute it or try to justify it, it don't need no justification.

Back to my advice of reading and understanding the underlying message, I would like to break down 3 points of criticism that have been levelled against me. Firstly the fact that I know people or have friends who put it on does not mean I am not entitled to voice my opinion. So in other words if my friends were sluts or I knew people who slept around, raising up promiscuity is out of the question?  Fuck outta here! Secondly, the statement about fake hair, fake nails and a real man. For some reason unbeknown to me,you missed the point, which is, looking good or 'taking care' of yourself does not mean being fake from your scalp down to your damn toenails. Looking good does not mean sleeping around for a wig either, for those who raise their eyebrows, you know it happens. With that said, I am not saying everyone who puts it on has to get laid for it.Lastly the truth about little girls is they look up to us,their mothers. We are hidden in so many other peoples identities we have forgotten our own so what are we going to teach and pass down our princesses except for self hate?

What I was trying to tell you was to stop telling your little girls through conduct that covering your crown is ok. The fact that we convince ourselves that our hair grows under those things is contradicted by the fact that it's covered by somebody elses. Why should it be hidden and need someone elses to grow? Why doesn't it grow on its own.I repeat, I was not telling you what to do, I was simply telling you to think.

Kind Regards
Ms_Curvy

Lesson # 2

History of
Braiding
Middle Passage 2.a

Cornrow Braiding Originates in Africa



Like many other “Africanisms” in the new world, knowledge of African hairstyles survived the Middle Passage. Heads were often shaved upon capture, ostensibly for sanitary reasons, but with the psychological impact of being stripped of one’s culture. Re-establishing traditional hair styles in the new world was thus an act of resistance; one that could be carried out covertly:
 
 

History lesson # 1

History of
Cornrow Braiding

Civil Rights 3.c

From Civil War to Civil Rights


 
 
 
 
In the 1950s, the revolts against colonialism in Africa and the stirrings of a new cultural politics in America inspired alternatives to straightening techniques. Black artists, scholars, and activists began to look toward African styles. One of the first to make a trip to Africa was artist John Biggers. He realized that the cornrow styles he had seen growing up in North Carolina were actually survivals of African tradition. In his book of drawings that he published from this trip he writes: “Many West African hair styles are worn by Negro women in the United States, including this one—“cornrows.” The hair is greased, combed, and tightly plaited. The ends of the hair that fall upon the neck are tied by a string. The comb has been carved from hard wood”
 
 
 
 
 

beauty.


Tamagotchi

This is a tamagotchi for all those who don't remember what it is or know what it looks like lol. I hope you are happy Olivia,she asked me what it was after my last piece titled My Father. It was/is a virtual pet which you carry around,have to feed and clean after or it dies lol *memories*. Explaining this game takes me back to the time of Tetris, silk worms, Pokemon and you know what? Lol let me not get carried away. If you don't know anythings I mentioned above you are either irrelevant or you are an infant. Hahaha on that not I would love to wish everyone a Fabulous Day!

X.O.X.O
Ms_Curvy

LACE WEAVES an identity crisis!





I cannot for the life of me begin to wrap my head around the so called lace weave. It is a serious identity crisis as far as I am concerned. The lengths black women are willing to go through to look like chimpanzees baffles me. Where do I begin? The ridiculous and horrid hairline which begins on peoples foreheads or the fact that it is pathetic sewing on someone else's complete identity on your head and hiding your own!

I had a heated conversation with someone this morning about this pathetic and desperate measure to be "western". It makes my blood boil and then curdle at the sight of this absolute rubbish! When have other nations ever bought our fro or dreads and sewn them on their heads? NEVER!!!!!! So please explain to me why you do? I believe it's ignorance and fear of the self. If you are aware of yourself then I do not believe you would want to carry around someone else who else who does not even regard you as a human being on your head. Why not carry yourself?

I am totally against it for a number of reasons besides the fact that I have never seen anyone who looks good in it, yes including Nicki Minaj and Khanyi Mbau, it is not doing anyone justice and frankly it continues to turn us into clowns. I cannot take anyone with a full head of synthetic hair, fake eyelashes and fake nails seriously I am sorry. It is true that a lot of girls be walking around with fake from head to toe and they wonder why they are alone and cant find a real man.
 
I wonder if most of you know or even care about the fact that they are making our little girls cut their hair at these schools because it looks untidy and is not clean? That is a heart breaking reality that most of these weave wearing haffers are oblivious to, that thing on your head is clouding your reality. Take it off and think about those little girls who grow up thinking their OWN hair is dirty,unacceptable and unhygienic. She will grow up to be like you, only worse because she is going to spend her life chasing after ideals that are not her own. She will grow up to hate herself and not even know who she is...just like? You guessed it..YOU!! Justify it all you want but it is what it is and that is the truth. Truth is everyone has been given the same amount of hair, just different textures! Don't believe me? Look at how dreadlocks grow.

It is high time you start taking yourself seriously. Less make up, less hair which aint yours and less conforming to a world that does not even take you seriously. Afrikan women are the mothers of humanity, that is a fact, its disheartening how we have forgotten that and our identity. If you take yourself seriously, people are bound to do the same. They say be the change you want to see in the world, so naturally, i grow my hair naturally with the hope that others will see the glory in my crown, my own crown and hopefully want wear their own. I have faith, "Now faith is the reality of what is HOPED for, the PROOF of what is not seen..-Hebrews 11v1.

Kind Regards
Ms_Curvy










Monday 2 September 2013

Peace,Love and Hope..


I kissed a girl and I liked it.

I kissed a girl and I liked it. I lived out the Katy Perry song on Friday and let me tell you she was not lying... She knew what she was doing and I was responding and I liked it?!  It doesn't help that she's hot and I remember the first time I saw her and her dreadlocks I thought mmmmhh I wouldn't mind kissing her.  After she told me she only had eyes for the hottest girl at the party and looked at me, she had me. You did not disappoint, the kiss was perfect, not too much of anything just right.This is to you my luscious lover, if you didn't know now you know **mcwah**.

Blowing Kisses
Ms_Curvy

Friday 30 August 2013

My father.



This one is to my father, who put a spring in my step. My father is the best, aint no man alive that can take my daddies place. In a world where people value material things, I was born of and raised by someone who values principle. Ever heard when someone says I see God in you? Well I see him in my father. Isn't that more reason to know,fear , respect and love God?

This man gave me the gift of music. Music I think is one thing that resonates in most of my pieces. That should give one a glimpse of how much I love, appreciate and understand it and that is because of this man. Through the music and him I must say I have learnt a lot, I have matured way past my years because of these different messages I have heard through beautiful instruments,vocals and sounds. I love music and I love my father. Music is the medium we use to praise and worship God, music is what will be playing in our real home.

The truth is something I have had the privilege of learning through this mans conduct and not his words. His promises will not return unfulfilled and if he cannot do something he always gives you a better alternative which you wouldn't have thought of. God is the truth, he is consistent and his answers are yes, not now and I have something better in my mind. I love my father for giving me my father. He is the reason I believe I am one of the chosen ones and that humbles.

Because of my father I can write the way I do and most importantly think the way I do. Granted we didn't have the best of relationships at the beginning because I did not understand that he is who he is, always has and always will. Just like I am. I am who I am because He is who he is. A man who is consistent, never changing just like I am. Everywhere you go he is the same person, nothing more nothing less but him..just like?  You guessed it....me. Look at God, he is the same everywhere to everyone, people might go to him in different ways but he is still God, never changing and consistent.

I remember I was an only child and my dad went out of his way to get me what I wanted, but on an incentive basis. In other words if I passed well then I could get what I wanted. One of my fondest memories was when I was nagging him for a tamagotchi, if you don't know what a tambagotchi is then you are too young to be reading this blog. Anyway he said ace the term and you will get it, he didn't even know what it was. Obviously I kicked ass in the term, mostly because of his after work tutoring of course. Did I mention he helped me with my homework until I was in High School. I knew that If I did something with my dad it was going to blow everyone away including the teacher.  We went to the store, he thought I wanted a video game, he was willing to cough up big for it, so when I told him it was not what I wanted he got a bit nervous, lol until the shop assistant bought along this small little game which was way less than what he wanted to get me. Just like with God you have to do what he says and hold your part of the deal to be blessed abundantly.

I get scared at the fact that I might not meet someone like my dad. Someone who loves,protects,provides,cares  and values the truth. Someone who is consistent and never changing. I am not saying my dad is an angel nor am I saying I am looking for one. All I am saying is I want someone who is who they are and allow me to be who I am. Someone who teaches me things, someone I look up to and most importantly someone I respect. The respect I have for my dad has it's own category, that ,man is something else people who have met him will tell you. I am looking for a place where I can submit. T he thought of leaving my dad freaks me out and it brings tears to my eyes. For as far as I can remember he has always been that man who has always been there for me and never disappointed me. He has been the only man who has made a fuss about driving me and picking me up.

I guess the Roberta Flack, Donny Hathaway and Nina Simone he gave to me, stirred up all these feelings of love, gratitude and appreciation inside. After writing this I am more humbled than before if that is even possible. That is one thing I learn through my father, he should copy right his own brand of humble pie. This man is so humble its humbling just watching him. Read this  and interpret it how you want because I always say, I will only be responsible for what I say, not for what you understand. The underlying message from this if there should be one, it is that  God is good and I see him and tie his lessons up with who and what he has blessed me with in my life. There is nothing stopping you from doing the same.

God is love
Ms_Curvy