The first came accross this years ago. It was one of those lenghty e-mails that I like most dane to read. It was from a childhood friend of mine so I thought let me peek, who knows it might be interesting. I started reading and surprisingly finished it. It had a profound effect on me and I showed I sent it to anyone who could read. Anyway this was before I had this blog. I recently came accross it agin and it's something I would like to share with you.
White women's opinion of black women & a brother's
response Please take a moment and read this. Pretty Deep! Thumbs up to this
black man.. Enjoy.
It seems that an article was written to Sister 2 Sister
magazine by a Caucasian woman who requested a response from black men. I'm so
glad she got what she asked for (and more) !!!
Dear Jamie:
I'm sorry but I would
like to challenge some of your Black male readers. I am a White female who is
engaged to a Black male-good-looki ng, educated and loving. I just don't
understand a lot of Black female's attitudes about our relationship. My man
decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black women were slim to
none. As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too
argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess
baggage. Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly
approached by Black men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world. If
Black women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't they
look at themselves and make some changes. I am tired of the dirty looks I get
and snide remarks when we're out in public. I would like to hear from some
Black men about why we are so appealing and coveted by them. Bryant Gumbel just
left his wife of 26 years for one of us Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the
model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry
Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry
Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes... I could go on and on.
But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly.
Don't be mad with us White women because so many of your men want us. Get your
acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to treat your men better.
If I'm wrong, Black men, let me know. Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA
RESPONSE
Dear Jamie:
I would like to
respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl. Let me start by saying
that I am a 28-year old black man. I graduated from one of the most prestigious
universities in Atlanta, Georgia with a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business
Management. I have a good job at a major corporation and have recently
purchased a house. So, I consider myself to be among the ranks of successful
black men. I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want
to set the record straight of why black men date white women. Back in the day,
one of the biggest reasons why black men dated white women was because they
were considered easy. The black girls in my neighborhood were raised in the
church. They were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they
lost it to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone
who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white
girls. Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they
are docile and easy to control. A lot of black men, because of insecurities,
fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our
black women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make
more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses.
Because of this fear, many black men look for a more docile
woman. Someone we can control. I have talked to numerous black men and they
continuously comment on how easy it is to control and walk over their white
women. I just want to set the record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to
know that not all successful black men date white women. Brothers like Ahmad
Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair
Underwood, Kenneth "Babyface" Edmonds, Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris
Rock all married strong black women And, to flip the script, there are numerous
white men, in and out of the spot light, who openly or secretly desire black
women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a
few. I just don't want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed Stop thinking
that because you are white that you are some type of goddess. Remember, when
black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and
armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat
and beating each other over the head with clubs.
Read your history! It was the black woman that taught you
how to cook and season your food. It was the black woman that taught you how to
raise your children. It was black women who were breast feeding and raising
your babies during slavery. It is the black woman that had to endure watching
their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail. Black
women were born with two strikes against them: being black and being a woman.
And, through all this, Still They Rise! It is because of the black women's
strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could> never> date
anyone except my black Queen. It is not just the outer beauty that captivates
and draws me to them. It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes,
colors and shades that I love them. Their inner beauty is what I find most
appealing about black women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls,
their integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness
to stand for what they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach
their highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have
fallen in love with black women. I honestly believe that your anger is geared
more toward jealousy and envy more so than snotty looks. If this were not so,
then why do you continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you
are so proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy with your pale skin?
Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts with unnatural and
dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more voluptuous? I think that
your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what the black woman has.
BOTTOM LINE:
If I were looking for
a docile woman, someone I can walk over and control, I would give you a call.
But, unfortunately, I am looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a
good wife and mother to my children. Someone who can be my best friend and
understands my struggles. I am looking for a soul mate. I am looking for a
sister and; unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill. No offense
taken, none given. Signed, Black Royalty Wow!!
