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Black man sit up and listen I’m taking now, this has been about you too damn long. You’ve had free reign for way too long TRUST! Ok we get it and have been inundated with the concept it’s a man’s world for a while now, now it’s my turn. I’m here to tell you the world is changing and there is a new breed of woman. This new breed is as a result of years of bullshit and damn compromise. Well I’m here to tell you she aint having any of it. Sorry and excuses will not suffice anymore, she now has the election and discretion to choose whether she will have it or not.

The woman I’m talking about wants all of you or nothing at all. She will not stand for the tired excuse “I’m not the type to call every day” because she knows out there somewhere there is one who does. It’s simple if you miss me and are thinking about me then PICK UP THE DAMN PHONE AND CALL. This woman knows her value already and wears it with pride, she just needs you to see it too and well I don’t know acknowledge it? The running joke is Caucasians can put up their partners names on their statuses accompanied by whatever they are feeling, well it’s not funny and we are not laughing.  Why do you make affection taboo for us?  It’s nobody’s fault but your own now own up and fix it. This woman is tired of keeping you in the damn safe you aint no family jewel.

This woman is not having any of your sex with no strings attached hog wash! You already have insight on the female psyche and their degree of attachment but you still pursue that option fully aware of the consequences that WILL result from your selfish need to feast while being unattached. Here’s advice...want to have fun? Then get a damn dog I’m sure you can relate. This is not male bashing but rather an eye opener. This woman would like a chance. Men do not give women a proper chance anymore, it’s about what you want and if it’s a tight piece of ass for the night then so be it. But have you ever thought to actually find out what that tight piece of ass is about? Well for starters it has a name! It could be educated, well informed, opinionated, well groomed and an overall asset to your life but you are so caught up in “the chase” that you choose not to see that.

This woman is tired of coming over to your place for a romp now and again without being taken out and shown off, I’m sorry but she just aint having any of that either. Your cheap ass would rather have a home-cooked meal ( which we don’t mind)  prepared by her and then have the balls to say she’s nagging when she brings it to your attention that you never want do anything together outside of the house. Cummon its basic, it’s called common courtesy. I’m sure it wouldn’t change the climate drastically if you complimented her on an outfit she put together or new hairstyle she sat in the salon for 10 hours to finish, just for you I might add.  Instead of complaining about how much the outfit cost or how long you had to wait for her to be done with the new hair? This woman is tired of hearing you dismiss her, when she tells you about the man who does all of this. Not every man who does the above mentioned is a closeted homo or labouring under some spell (sidles), that man is making an effort I suggest you start doing the same.

I don’t think men understand how tired women are with going 50/50 you’re always going on about being a man and wearing the pants, well here is a tip..Please actually BE ONE. Men are hunters and women are gatherers, you go out there and hunt (pay cheque) and we gather (put it to good use). It’s simple if you’re not contributing DO NOT expect anything least of all her respect. I can already hear you going on about relationships not being based on money, well err in the Amazon maybe but not in the real world. You don’t see the egg swimming to the sperm, so MAN THE F*CK UP!

This woman is growing weary of not being proposed to, no in all honesty though whatever happened to asking a woman out and telling her your intentions clearly and not expecting her to “go with the flow and see where this takes us”. What does that even mean, I know! It means she must put her own life on hold, ahang around for a while with hopes that one day you will wake up and realise what you’ve found in her and actually get to know and love her with no reservations. Oh ja I’m sure she’s tired of hearing about that girl who ripped your heart out (heroine) and left you for somebody who was loaded *yawns*. So what, do you think we just stumble on your doors with sleep in our eyes, with no tales of disappointment? I’m sorry to burst your bubbles but we also have our fair share of baggage that we choose not check in with it when we open a new damn door. Damnit we are tired of being options and not priorities, we have a lot to think about while you’re busy weighing your options, ever heard of a biological clock? Well nigga it’s TICKING!! *tick-tock*

This woman might have a kid(s), she aint hearing about how you don’t want someone with a child, it’s not her fault you shoot blanks..  What is she supposed to do now swallow the child just so you can stick around for a while only to find another lame excuse to leave, oh hell nah. If she has a child take them both, or like Lira puts it HAMBA.  I’m damn sure that this woman did not get tips from her grandmother about sticking it out through thick and thin (aka your sleeping around), because unlike her, she knows AIDS!

Kind Regards

Ms_Curvy